Why You Should Write Your Own Eulogy
Introduction
Most of us don’t think about what will be said at our own funeral, but why leave it to chance? Writing your own eulogy isn’t about being morbid; it’s about ensuring your story is told the way you want it to be remembered. It’s an opportunity to shape your legacy, provide comfort to loved ones, and leave behind words that truly reflect who you are.
How Well Do Your Loved Ones Know You?
Even those closest to you may not know your full story. Consider:
Do they know much about your childhood and early years?
Have you shared stories of your favourite places, jobs or life milestones?
Do they know what you loved and valued most in life?
Would they get your story right if they had to write it themselves?
It’s natural for family and friends to remember us in bits and pieces – the moments they personally experienced. But a self-written eulogy ensures that your whole story is told.
What Would You Want People to Say About You?
Imagine your funeral. What stories will be shared? Do you want:
A lighthearted reflection on funny moments in your life?
A focus on your achievements and the impact you had?
Something deeply meaningful and heartfelt?
Or all of the above?
Some people might recall your quirks and humour, but will they know which moments meant the most to you? Writing your own eulogy means choosing what’s shared – whether it’s a proud accomplishment, a treasured memory or a simple message of love and gratitude.
More Than Just Words: Music, Readings & Wishes
A eulogy is at the heart of a funeral, but it’s not the only way to make the service truly yours. You can also:
Select meaningful readings that reflect your beliefs, values, or favourite literature.
Choose the music – a song that defines you, a classical piece, or something more personal.
Decide who should speak – whether it’s a loved one, a celebrant, or a trusted friend.
This applies whether you’re planning a traditional service, a non-religious celebration, or even a natural burial, where the emphasis is often on simplicity and personal connection rather than a structured script.
Why Plan Ahead?
Relieve the burden on your family: Losing a loved one is difficult; planning your own farewell makes things easier.
Ensure your true story is told: Your words, your voice, your legacy.
Bring comfort to those left behind: A self-written eulogy allows you to leave a personal message of love, reassurance, or even humour.
Whether you want to write a simple eulogy or outline your final wishes, Eulonique can help. Get in touch to start shaping your legacy today.
